Feelings should not control you.
The idea is not to suppress feelings. It’s to learn how to cope with them in an effective way.
They’re always going to be there.
Take fear as an example.
When you think about fear, you think about something that is risky for your life.
The thing is that there’s not much things that are risky out there. It’s not like you running for your life all the time.
But there’s other kinds of fear that influence our decision making process. Fear of missing out, fear of not been accepted, fear of not been able to control a situation, fear of failures, fear of uncertainty, etc.
Those fears create anxiety.
When you realize that feelings are stories that you tell yourself, you can see that most of them are not true. They’re makings of your imagination.
A useful skill is to be able to distinguish those feelings from the reality that surround us.
It’s called emotional intelligence.
The practice is to sit still and let those feelings pass through you without reacting on them.
When you sit still and stay with those feelings, you can see that there’s nothing bad that happen.